POLL: The Wilder Report II - My Adult Spanking Life

THE WILDER REPORT II: These questions are about your more recent experiences and desires in your Adult Spanking Life. Thanks so much for your participation.

Please answer ALL the questions - by NUMBER - try to choose from one of the suggested answers then follow with anything you might like to add. This should be a lot of fun!

YOU MUST START WITH YOUR BASIC INFO
OR YOUR ENTRY IS USELESS AND WILL BE DELETED.

TYPE IN THE FOLLOWING:
Gender, Age, Marital Status
(male, 48, single) SAMPLE


1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking? (Late teens, 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's, NEVER)


2. Was it administered by an acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, wife or professional?


3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay?


4. Was it inside of an existing committed relationship or outside of it? (Inside, Outside)


5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? (Yes, No)


6. If so, what was her response to it? (Delighted, curious, obliging, not interested, repulsed)


7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? (Yes, No, N/A - not applicable) How do you deal with it, emotionally?


8. If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened or N/A?


9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years?


10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately? (daily, weekly, monthly, every sx months, every year, years)


11. If you are dating, how soon do you express this desire to someone? (first few dates, 1-3 months, 6 mos - one year, first few years, many years later, NEVER)


12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire?


13. Choose as many as you like from the following. I prefer to be spanked with: hand, brush, slipper, paddle, belt, cane, ruler, ferule, flogger, other (please write in)


14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings: mouth-washing, corner time, panty play, forced feminization, temperature taking, prostate massage, strap-on, fellatio, cunnilingus, rimming, intercourse, none, OTHER (please write in)


15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation?


16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be; mommy, aunt, grandmother, teacher, boss, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, girlfriend, wife, NONE, OTHER (please write in).


17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult?


18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE?


19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears?


20. How do you feel about marks? (no thanks, okay if it happens, yes please)


21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain, other


22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER (please write in)?


Some new questions suggested by readers:

(If you've already answered and want to answer these as well, copy and paste your entire original posting then add on your new answers. I will then delete your original! Easy!)


23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer (prim, matronly, conservative, everyday casual, provocative, overtly sexual, leather n' stuff.)


24. Have you been spanked in front of others? (Yes, No) Would you be willing to be? (Yes, No) If yes, strangers or people you know?


25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? (Risk or private or both)


26. Have you ever been outed? (Yes, No) If Yes, describe.


27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? (OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, on bed in diaper position, kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on knees, nose to wall, other - ?)


28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? (Yes, No) If so, what caused it? (Excessive pain, you felt you had disappointed your spanker, you felt you had disappointed yourself, the roleplay was young age, other - ?)


29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? Do you seek variety?


30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian?


Any other ideas for questions?

70 comments:

  1. Male, 77, married

    1. 30's? certainly by 40's.

    2. professional

    3. fun

    4. outside

    5. no; I asked her once and she was repulsed by the idea.

    6. repulsed but haven't discussed the issue in 40+ years.

    7. no

    8. N/A

    9. Grown

    10. Monthly

    11. N/A

    12. Accepting

    13. hand, hair brush, paddle, belt, cane, ferule, flogger, whip, tawse.

    14. mouth-washing, corner time, ass kissing, rimming

    15. real life situations

    16. non-role play: professional disciplinarian or domme into corporal punishment

    17. as I am

    18. true offenses

    19. to high level of pain; have never been spanked to tears but would like to be.

    20. Yes, please

    21. Pain and satisfaction; depending on person administering punishment and post-punishment treatment, I am sometimes turned on.

    22. Remain soft while being spanked. Will attain erection afterwards if disciplinarian wishes.

    Have you been spanked in front of others? Would you be willing to be spanked in front of others?

    Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? Do you seek variety?

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  2. Male, 58, M

    1. 40s

    2. Wife

    3. Fun

    4. Inside the relationship

    5. Yes

    6. Obliging

    7. NA

    8. Her interest has grown over time.

    9. My interest is about the same - I just plain want to be spanked at almost any time.

    10. About once to twice a month.

    11. NA.

    12. Totally accept it.

    13. I prefer a leather or rubber paddle, but will submit to anything.

    14. Other - I like to have progress pictures taken, be forced to remain in position (bent over chair, etc.), and be forced to watch in mirrors (flinching is punishable in itself).

    15. Role playing is definitely preferred.

    16. Manager.

    17. Adult.

    18. Imaginary (except as noted above).

    19. I like to be reddened and spanked enough over the course of a day so as to be sore for a day or two.

    20. OK, but not necessary.

    21. Pain in the moment, to the extent that I sometimes wonder why I let myself get into the situation. That being said, I do enjoy being restrained at the end of a long, hard spanking so that more swats have to be endured.

    A great deal of satisfaction as soon as it ends, however.

    In the infrequent event of an over the lap spanking, I really treasure the softness of my wife's thighs as counterpoint to the sting and pain being rained down on my backside.

    22. Sometimes get an erection, but it is more likely when embraced and rubbed a while after the event.

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  3. 1.20's
    2.professional
    3.fun
    4.outside
    5.no significant other
    6.n/a
    7.n/a
    8.n/a
    9.about the same
    10.every year
    11.n/a
    12.ashamed
    13.hand,brush(a little bit),thin leather strap, would like to try tree branch switch.
    14.corner time,made to stay in different embarrassing positions,"spanking language" on both our parts, wicked commentary from spanker when making appt.
    15.roleplay
    16.aunt,boss,wife
    17.adult,but treated like a child/teen
    18.made-up
    19.red
    20.No, but red red bottom
    21.Both pain and enjoyment.
    22.erection
    Like to be spanked with other women watching, though not necessary. A variation on this would be to have a woman come in and see me standing red bare bottomed in the corner, or else bending over a table presenting red spanked bottom.
    Manhattan Peter

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  4. Sorry, forgot to mention I'm single male age 59.
    Manhattan Peter

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  5. Sorry, forgot to mention I'm single male age 59.
    Manhattan Peter

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  6. Male, 39, single
    1. 21.

    2. Female friend with whom I previously was the spanker.

    3. For fun (and exploration).

    4. It was inside a friendship. I wasn't dating anyone at the time.

    5. n/a

    6. n/a

    7. n/a

    8. n/a

    9. It's remained consistent with periods of intense desire now and again.

    10. Roughly once every few months.

    11. I've tried to only date women who are into spanking themselves (which means I don't date much. LOL)

    12. Accepting but private.

    13.I prefer to be spanked with: hand, leather paddle, belt, ruler, flogger, wooden school paddle over jeans and curious about slipper.

    14. Corner time, occasional light bondage.

    15. Any situation, but if it's a real situationI have to agree I deserve it.

    16. If I do role play I prefer it to be a non relative or distant relative. Anything else makes me feel a bit creeped out.

    17. Adult.

    18. Made up ones (in role play).

    19. Pink to red.

    20. Okay if it happens.

    21. Pain. Only turned on if it's pretty light.

    22. Soft or a semi (unless, again, it's quite light).

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  7. Male, 57, Married


    1. 30s

    2. wife

    3. fun and foreplay

    4. Inside

    5. yes

    6. Several transitions: initially curious, later turned off, more recently--through patient and careful communication--obliging and committed out of a desire to meet my needs.

    7. NA

    8. It has grown with some ebb and flow in both directions. It is never fully quite where I want it to be, but it is better than it has ever been before.

    9. Grown

    10. Two-three times per year

    11. NA

    12. I accept it; I crave it; I will endure the embarrassment and emotional vulnerability (in the context of negative societal attitudes which, like it or not, we both bring into a session)in pursuit of my deep need. But this is a two-way street as I am fully committed to meeting the needs of my SO.

    13. hand, paddle, wooden spoon, spatula, belt

    14. intercourse, fellatio, cunnilingus

    15. role play or no situation in particular

    16. role play: wife

    17. adult--for me the whole thing is about one loving adult spanking another loving adult as part of a mature, intimate relationship

    18. about equally between made up offenses and none

    19. pink and/or red; almost never tears; any tears would simply be around the edges, not running down my cheeks; tears would be out of deep appreciation for my spanker attending to my needs rather than a response to physical pain

    20. marks are rare but not a problem if/when they occur because they have been ever so slight

    21. turned on, intense, excited, almost breathless, deeply warmed with pain and pleasure; desperately needing her to remain in control of the session as we move to the next phase; final phase features deep, inimate nurturing

    22. erection, leak fluid, orgasm

    ___________________________________

    23. Her typical dress is prim top but with short, tight skirt that rides higher as she proceeds with my punishment. She wears panty hose or stay-up stockings or regular hose with garter belts, also high heels.

    Since she does this for my benefit, the visuals respond to my needs. I get an eyeful of her stunningly lovely legs; she places my member between her legs for maximum friction while I am over her lap and my bottom is bouncing under her punishment.

    24. Our session is always completely private. Our closest friends would be stunned (but maybe fascinated) but they will never know.

    25. OTK is our position of preference; it can be OTK alone or sometimes in combination with other positions as part of a longer session, lying on a bed or being bent over a table or counter top. In the latter instances the idea is to allow her space for maximum movement, more powerful swing, greater impact.

    jm

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  8. m 38 married

    1. early 30's
    2. wife
    3. punishment-began as a way to stop smoking.
    agreed to 5 swats for each cigarette
    smoked
    4. inside relationship
    5. yes
    6. it was her idea now delighted with this control
    7. n/a
    8. has only grown
    9. grown
    10. weekly and occasional and at times daily if
    need be
    11.n/a
    12.very accepting
    13.hand, belt, paddle, flogger, cane
    14.corner time, panty play,some forced
    feminization, cunnilingus,rimming
    strapon and being deprived of cumming
    after spanking
    15.real life situations
    16.mommy & son on occasion
    17. 14 or 15
    18.true offences
    19.to tears
    20.always have had them
    21.fear, pain and finally submission as it goes on
    22.soft or semi but always leaking have cum soft
    during the session.
    23.everyday wear
    24.been spanked in front of others. they have
    been both strangers and a few friends
    25.risk is thriling
    26.wife accidently slipped and told my brother she
    had spanked me
    27.over knee or over sofa back or chair, kneeling
    ass in air head on bed or nose to wall
    28.am always spanked to tears it is our agreement
    the tears are the release
    29.n/a
    30. n/a

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  9. skintighties1/27/07, 8:02 PM

    male,36,single

    1. late teens

    2. acquaintence

    3. a punishment roleplay scenario

    4. outside

    5,6,7,8. n/a

    9. remained pretty constant

    10. appx. once a month

    11. spanking doesn't always figure in my relationships--if it does--within the first few dates

    12. no--I thinks it's fun and erotic

    13. hand, small paddles, brush

    14. corner time, temp taking, prostate massage, fingers, toys, cfnm scenarios (clothed female nude male), as well as exhibitionism for all (all-around boytoy show-off), chores, mixed spanking (mom and dad or uncle and aunt), others as well!

    15. roleplay

    16. like spanking by both men and women--fav roles for women are aunt, teacher (headmistress), friend's mom

    17. teen, college years are hot fantasies

    18.made-up offences are best

    19.red

    20.no thanks

    21. turned-on

    22.erections--always, leaks--always, orgasm--usually

    23.prim and conservative--I like the inequality of proper dress vs. my near and total nudity

    24.yes--and I am very willing to spanked in front of others--strangers are best

    25.both

    26.no

    27.otk--with muscular legs spread--but over furniture or table, or with my rear propped up onbed is good too

    28.I have come to tears--i'm good at roleplay!

    29. I see a few disciplinarians

    30.n/a

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  10. DB, Male, 50

    1. 20's
    2. wife
    3. foreplay
    4. inside
    5. yes
    6. reluctantly accepting, she'll do it but I ALWAYS have to ask for it
    7. N/A
    8. N/A
    9. grown
    10. bi-monthly
    11.N/A
    12. in between
    13. hand, hairbrush I got for her (hers was round headed and covered with bristles), wooden spoon, anything light and flat, nothink lashing
    14 clothing fetish
    15. she just spanks without anything added. I imagine roles, verbalization, etc.
    16. Just about any female authority figure
    17. Mostly I imagine myself about eight years old
    18 made-up
    19. pink and a little stingy. NOT a pain lover.
    20.no thanks
    21.turned on
    22. erect often
    23. I like casual soft clothing, flannel jumper, wool skirt, nylons, woolly knee socks or overknees/legwarmers
    24. no, no
    25. private
    26. no
    27. OTK please! one knee or the lap. Her comfort is important. I'm not a small, light person
    28. no
    29. N/A
    30. N/A

    Another question could be does she use verbal cues or scolding? What would you like to hear?

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  11. Male, Married, Age 77


    1. First adult spanking 30's? certainly by 40's.

    2. By whom: professional

    3. Purpose: originally for fun; now often for punishment

    4. Inside or outside relationship: Outside

    5. Does significant other (wife) know: no; I asked her once and she was repulsed by the idea.

    6. Her response: repulsed but haven't discussed the issue in 40+ years.

    7. Does she know I get spanked elsewhere: no

    8. N/A

    9. Has desire grown or lessened: Grown

    10. How often now: Monthly

    11. N/A

    12. Ashamed or accepting: Accepting

    13. Instruments: hand, hair brush, paddle, belt, cane, ferule, flogger, whip, tawse.

    14. Added attractions: mouth-washing, corner time, ass kissing, rimming

    15. Role play? No, real life situations

    16. Prefer non-role play: professional disciplinarian or domme into corporal punishment

    17. Age: My own age

    18. For what: true offenses

    19. To what stage: to high level of pain; have never been spanked to tears but would like to be.

    20. Marks? Yes, please

    21. What do I feel during spanking Pain and satisfaction; depending on person administering punishment and post-punishment treatment, I am sometimes turned on.

    22. State of penis: Remain soft while being spanked. Will attain erection afterwards if disciplinarian wishes.

    23: Spanker's dress: Prefer street dress or everyday casual; no special outfits.

    24: Ever spanked in front of others? No. Would I be willing:
    Yes. Friends or strangers: People who did not know my identity.

    25. Risk of being found out? Want it totally private

    26. Ever been outed? Have admitted to psychiatrist but to no one else.

    27. Positions: Any. Spanker's choice.

    28. Spanked to tears? Only as child; never as an adult.

    29: See disciplinarian regularly: Yes. Like variety but I mainly see one pro domme, who understands what I need in the way of discipline and punishment.

    30: What do I hope for? I'm satisfied by the one I've found. She is both strict and caring.

    rob_3209

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  12. Male, late 40s, married

    1. mid-40s (about 4 years ago)

    2. pro

    3. fun

    4. outside

    5. no

    6. n/a (She would be repulsed, horrified, angry, hence the "no" on #5.)

    7. n/a (I have pangs of guilt about hiding this from my wife, but after 30 years of trying to repress my spanking interest, I felt I had to act on it.)

    8. n/a

    9. grown (gradually over the years; thought it would abate but the opposite was true.)

    10. monthly (sessioned monthly for about 3 years with pros; now in a "kinky friendship" where I'm spanked occasionally at her whim - probably every couple of months.)

    11. n/a (if I were ever single again, I would try to broach it early on; wouldn't want to hide it as I do now.)

    12. accepting (but private; not ashamed of my desires, but recognize it's still taboo to most people.)

    13. all items listed (no real preference as to implements; like the different sensations they all impart, like the lady having a wide range to choose from as part of her creative palette.)

    14. all listed, except forced feminization (obviously, the latter half of the list is only appropriate in a relationship, not with a pro; however, my ultimate desire would be spanking and other discipline followed by intense love-making.)

    15. no situation (some roleplay is fun, but basically I want to be spanked by a fun, affectionate sadist, without inventing a reason for me to be spanked.)

    16. girlfriend or wife (if any roleplay; my core fantasy is to be regularly disciplined by a loving but dominant wife.)

    17. adult

    18. none (have confessed to real offenses, but don't find that necessary; made-up ones seem silly to me, doesn't get me in the right mind-set.)

    19. red

    20. OK if it happens (actually, I'd love 'em, but have to be discreet at home, so have to be very limited in getting marked.)

    21. turned on (before), pain (during), turned on & satisfied (after). Love the before & after, hate the "during"!

    22. erect before, soft during (no orgasm, not sure about leaking fluid.)

    23. conservative or everyday casual (she should be comfy, not changing into sexy/fetishy clothing for the occasion; but if it excites her to do so, that's OK.)

    24. yes (it was fun, but generally prefer the one-on-one mindset; wouldn't need to know the observer beforehand, but should be someone in the scene, and not someone from my vanilla life.)

    25. private

    26. no

    27. OTK, on bed (any position), over chair

    28. no (I don't object to crying during spanking, just hasn't happened; I suspect it would happen due to emotional catharsis, not as a result of being spanked extra-hard.)

    29. one regularly

    30. What I hope for (and have found) is a lady who is: safe, discreet, skillful, caring, intelligent, sexy, nurturing.

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  13. 1- teens ,2girl friend,3foreplay,4 inside,5yes 6 oblige,7NA,8 grown,9 less, 10 bi-monthly,11 NA, 12 accept13 belt14 none, 15 no situation,16NA,17NA ,18 NA, 19 red, 20no thanx,21 turned on,22 orgasm,23Conservative feminine,24 no, 25private,26 no,27 otk, 28no,29 one, 30 a lady that enjoys giving as much as I enjoy receiving.


    R

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  14. OOPS! You naughty boys! The last two posts forgot to put their:

    Gender, Age, Marital Status

    I can't use the post unless you do that. Just copy and paste what you wrote into a new one with the above info on top and I'll delete the old one!

    Thanks!

    Miss F

    Jeesh, now I know why you need to be spanked!

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  15. Hi Miss Francy. Sure, I'll play. :)

    Male, 32, single

    1. 20s. (Maybe 21?)
    2. Acquaintance. I think Ms. Margaret Davis actually has the honor, if you know her.
    3. Fun
    4. Outside
    5. N/A - single
    6. N/A
    7. N/A
    8. N/A
    9. Lessened. It's more interspersed with some other question 14-type stuff.
    10. 6 months?
    11. 1-3 months for people I meet under purely vanilla circumstances
    12. Sometimes, yeah. But I'm not sure if I want to get past that, the humiliation aspect can be kinda hot.
    13. Prefer? Hand, paddle, strap
    14. prostate, strap-on, oral sex/intercourse are all fun.
    15. Roleplay. Never done "real life" but curious about it.
    16. Wife
    17. Adult. Maybe teen.
    18. None or true offences. "Made up" offences doesn't make sense to me.
    19. Depends on the person and circumstances. But really, to tears.
    20. okay if it happens
    21. pain. satisfaction.
    22. remain soft.
    23. overtly sexual
    24. Yes. Person I know.
    25. Private
    26. No
    27. OTK-scissors lock, over bed/horse (pref with restraint)
    28. Yes. Pain.
    29. No.
    30. Don't see one.

    Hope this helps your research. Anything for science!


    Eric

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  16. 1.37 2.wife 3.punishment 4.inside 5.yes 6.it was her idea 7.NA 8.Grown. After the first, she did it many times. 9.grown. 10.perhaps monthly; it varies. 11.i'm married
    12.not ashamed but want it kept private 13.hand,strap,ruler, hairbrush. 14.face slapping 15.real life (punishment) 16.it would be wife, but it's real 17adult 18.true offenses 19,red with welts,a few tears. 20.some marks are unavoidable.21.pain plus turnon 22.get hard, but she spanks until that's gone.23.everyday but feminine 24.No and NO 25.private
    26NO 27always otk 28Yes, it went on a long time.29.my disciplinarian is my wife.30.if I went, i'd want her to do it just like my wife does.

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  17. Thank you Eric, for being so thorough in your answers. You are a gentleman and a scholar.

    BUT whoever posted before you, RIGHT AFTER I POSTED, obviously doesn't bother to read instructions.

    YOU MUST POST YOUR
    GENDER, AGE, MARITAL STATUS

    or it's useless. I'll give you one day to copy and paste it in a new oen with the correct info. Then I'll delete you entry.

    UNDERSTOOD!

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  18. spanked devil dog1/28/07, 10:10 PM

    Male, 21, Single
    1) Late teens
    2)girlfriend
    3)fun, foreplay
    4)inside
    5)yes
    6)delighted
    7)n/a
    8)grown
    9)grown
    10) bi-weekly to monthly
    11) 6mos
    12) accepting
    13) hand, brush, slipper, belt,cane, ruler,spoon, arrow shaft
    14) mouthwashing, corner time, panty play, forced fem, temp taking, strap-on though havnet done it yet, fellatio, cunnilingus, rimming, intercourse, plugging, handspanking
    15) roleplay and real life
    16) mommy
    17)child
    18)true offences but if none made up ones
    19) to tears
    20) yes please
    21) turned on, satisfaction, pain
    22)initally an erection however softens after severity

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  19. dactarsspeed1/29/07, 9:06 AM

    dactarsspeed
    male
    60 jan 30th
    1. 60
    2.Professional
    3.Punishment Domestic type,
    4. Outside.
    5. Yes
    6. Not Interested.
    7. No
    8. N/A
    9. Grown
    10.Once 8 months ago.
    11.Never.
    12. accepting.
    13. Hand , hairbrush, slipper, paddle.
    14. Corne time.
    15. Roleplay.
    16. Friends Mother, neighbour ,teacher.
    17. Child,teen.
    18. Made up ones but true would be ok.
    19.pain.
    20. remain soft but prior to start erection.
    21. Matronly.
    22. private.
    23.No.
    24. OTK .
    25 No.
    26.No.
    27 Visited one am considering another.
    28 Plenty of understanding.

    Having read this board Wouldn't mind if Edna did it but I digress from your questions Sorry.

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  20. George said...
    Male, 58, M

    1. 40s

    2. Wife

    3. Fun

    4. Inside the relationship

    5. Yes

    6. Obliging

    7. NA

    8. Her interest has grown over time.

    9. My interest is about the same - I just plain want to be spanked at almost any time.

    10. About once to twice a month.

    11. NA.

    12. Totally accept it.

    13. I prefer a leather or rubber paddle, but will submit to anything.

    14. Other - I like to have progress pictures taken, be forced to remain in position (bent over chair, etc.), and be forced to watch in mirrors (flinching is punishable in itself).

    15. Role playing is definitely preferred.

    16. Manager.

    17. Adult.

    18. Imaginary (except as noted above).

    19. I like to be reddened and spanked enough over the course of a day so as to be sore for a day or two.

    20. OK, but not necessary.

    21. Pain in the moment, to the extent that I sometimes wonder why I let myself get into the situation. That being said, I do enjoy being restrained at the end of a long, hard spanking so that more swats have to be endured.

    A great deal of satisfaction as soon as it ends, however.

    In the infrequent event of an over the lap spanking, I really treasure the softness of my wife's thighs as counterpoint to the sting and pain being rained down on my backside.

    22. Sometimes get an erection, but it is more likely when embraced and rubbed a while after the event.

    23. Provocative - short skirt, maybe a sheer top under a suit jacket; something to prompt"inappropriate behavior."

    24. No, Yes, Strangers.

    25. Risk.

    26. No, except if you count detection as outing.

    27. OTK, over chair, kneeling on all fours with face and upper body flet on bed.

    28. No.

    29. Yes (wife). No.

    30. NA.

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  21. Male 53, married. StanT

    1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking? 40's,

    2. Was it administered by an acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, wife or professional? Professional

    3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay? Punishemtn

    4. Was it inside of an existing committed relationship or outside of it? (Inside, Outside)Outside

    5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? No

    6. If so, what was her response to it? (Delighted, curious, obliging, not interested, repulsed)n/a

    7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? No

    8. N/A?

    9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years? Grown

    10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately? Every other month

    11. NA

    12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire? Accepting

    13. Choose as many as you like from the following. I prefer to be spanked with: hand, brush,

    14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings: mouth-washing, corner time, temperature taking, prostate massage, strap-on, rimming,

    15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation? Roleplay

    16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be; boss,

    17. What age do you like to play when being spanked:adult

    18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE? Made up

    19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: red

    20. How do you feel about marks? okay if it happens

    21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, then pain

    22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER (please write in)? Erect or semi-erect while she's lecturing me and telling me what she's going to do to me but then soft when the spanking begins

    _some new questions suggested by readers_

    (If you've already answered and want to answer these as well, copy and paste your entire original posting then add on your new answers. I will then delete your original! Easy!)

    23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer: Skirt and blouse - I like when she sits in the chair, lowers my pants and then makes me wait as she rolls up her sleeve.

    24. Have you been spanked in front of others? Just once - the woman that was spanking me had another woman (that I didn't know) come over to watch. I liked the embarrassment of that.

    25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? Would never want to be outed.

    26. Have you ever been outed? No

    27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? Any OTK position

    28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? (Yes, No) NO

    29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? I see two regularly - they have different spanking styles.

    30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian? I like to feel that they are enjoying spanking me.

    Any other ideas for questions?

    One other question - When the spanking begins do you like the disciplinarian to continue with the lecture? No I like to be made to concentrate on what she's doing to me

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  22. dactarspeed: please go to chat room

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  23. Happy Hubby1/30/07, 7:36 AM

    Male.60,Married

    1 50,s
    2 wife
    3 foreplay
    4 inside
    5 yes
    6 curious
    7 n/a
    8 grown
    9 grown
    10 monthly
    11 n/a
    12 accepting
    13 only two-hand followed by brush
    14 intercourse
    15 roleplay
    16 wife
    17 adult
    18 made up or none
    19 all 3 but wife hasn't got me to 3 yet
    20 okay if it happens
    21 enjoyment, satisfaction
    22 erection sometimes, but usually soft until after
    23 provocative
    24 no
    25 private
    26 no
    27 otk scissor-lock and when she switches to the brush, arm held up my back as well
    28 not yet, but I SO want to, and my wife does promise that one day she will spank me so that I will be blubbering over her knee, Yes please.
    29 wife only, variety in roleplay
    30 n/a

    A question, has anyone given or recieved a spanking that started out as fun or roleplay but turned into a full-bloodied real spanking and what was the result?

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  24. TYPE IN THE FOLLOWING:
    Male
    Age 59,
    Never Married

    1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking?
    Age 29- 0r 30.
    2. Was it administered by an acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, wife or professional?
    A professional
    3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay?
    Spanking Play.
    4. Was it inside of an existing committed relationship or outside of it?
    Outside
    5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? No Sig. Other
    6. If so, what was her response to it?
    n/a
    7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? How do you deal with it, emotionally?
    n/a
    8. If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened or N/A?
    n/a
    9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years?
    Grown
    10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately?
    Every six months
    11. If you are dating, how soon do you express this desire to someone?
    I don’t date.
    12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire?
    Yes.
    13. Choose as many as you like from the following.
    I prefer to be spanked with: hand,– slipper, hairbrush, paddle, strap, flogger, and especially a broad leather paddle .
    14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings:
    temperature taking, prostate massage, butt plugs, strap-on, rimming, enemas, suppositories.
    15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation?
    Roleplay or no situation, just a spanking!
    16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be;
    mommy, aunt, teacher, boss, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, nun, priestess….
    17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult?
    Tee or adult
    18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE?
    NONE
    19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears?
    red
    20. How do you feel about marks? (no thanks, okay if it happens, yes please)
    no thanks
    21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain, other
    pain and turned on
    22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER usually soft—on very special occasion will have an erection

    _some new questions suggested by readers_

    (If you've already answered and want to answer these as well, copy and paste your entire original posting then add on your new answers. I will then delete your original! Easy!)

    23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer (prim, matronly, conservative, everyday casual, provocative, overtly sexual, leather n' stuff.)
    conservative or everyday casual
    24. Have you been spanked in front of others? (Yes, No) Would you be willing to be? (Yes, No) If yes, strangers or people you know?
    NO
    25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? (Risk or private or both)
    Private
    26. Have you ever been outed? (Yes, No) If Yes, describe.
    NO
    27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? (OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, on bed in diaper position, kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on knees, nose to wall, other - ?)
    on bed with bottom propped up,
    28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? (Yes, No) If so, what caused it? NO (Excessive pain, you felt you had disappointed your spanker, you felt you had disappointed yourself, the roleplay was young age, other - ?)

    29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? Do you seek variety?
    Simi-regularly
    30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian?
    Loving concern

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  25. I failed to complete this properly, I will try again :)
    Male 59, married

    #1 40`s
    (wanted it before did not ask for it)
    #2 Wife
    #3 foreplay
    #4 inside
    #5 Yes
    #6 obliging (at first)
    #7 Yes (but does not know everything)
    #8 Lessened a lot
    #9 increased a lot
    #10 monthly (or longer)
    #11 N/A
    #12 Accepting
    #13 Hand, anything leather, No canes!
    #14 prostate massage, strap-on, rimming, (would like to try forced feminazation, and forced pleasuring of the spanker(any)
    #15 both
    #16 Aunt , friends mother, wife
    #17 teen
    #18 all of the above
    #19 Red (bright!)
    #20 ok if it happens
    #21 all of the above
    #22 erection, have come close to orgasm
    #23 matronly, provocative, leather, (Or Nothing!)
    #24 Yes and Yes (as long as the others were livestyle)
    #25 private
    #26 No
    #27 OTK bent over chair or back of sofa, over edge of bed, kneeling on all 4, laying flat. (or restrained bent over what ever is available)
    #28 No (I would like that to happen, but it may not)
    #29 No, Yes, (none close by)
    #30. variety, caring, someone I like and respect.
    other idea:
    Would you like to be well spanked and forced to give sexual pleasure(s) to your partner (my answer is yes)

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  26. male 45 married
    1. 30s
    2. wife
    3. punishment
    4. inside
    5. yes
    6. curious
    7. n/a
    8. grown
    9. grown
    10. weekly to monthly depending on how i behave
    11. first few years
    12. yes
    13. brush,hand. strap and cane
    14 panties , corner time forcefem. strap on
    15. real life
    16 n/a
    17. n/a
    18. true
    19. red and tears
    20.ok if it happens
    21. pain
    22. remain soft
    23. conservative
    24. yes person i know
    25. risk
    26. yes my wife spanked me in front of her best friend
    27. otk scissor lock and over pillows on bed and over the end of the bed
    28. yes
    pain shame that i dispointed her
    29. my wife is the disciplinarion
    30. n/a

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  27. Male, 47, married

    1. 20s
    2. Girlfriend
    3. foreplay
    4. inside
    5. Yes
    6. Obliging
    7. N/A
    8. Lessened
    9. About the same
    10. every 6 months
    11. N/A
    12. Accepting
    13. Hand, brush, paddle, belt, ruler, wooden spoon, spatula, switch
    14. rimming, intercourse
    15. roleplay + no situation
    16. Aunt, teacher, boss, neighbor, wife, babysitter
    17. teen + adult
    18. Made-up and none
    19. Red
    20. No thanks.
    21. All at the same time.
    22. Other - I start with an erection, lose it as the spanking becomes more painful, and get it right back afterward.
    23. I prefer prim or matronly or conservative or everyday casual basically fully dressed in regular clothes - not fetish wear.
    24. No, yes, people I know (women only)
    25. Both
    26. No although my wife once hinted at it in a conversation with a gay friend.
    27. OTK, over a chair, Kneeling on a chair, over the end of the bed
    28. No
    29. No.
    30. N/A

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  28. Male, late 30's, attached

    1. 30's

    2. girlfirend

    3/ punishment

    4 inside

    5 yes

    6 delighted

    7 na

    8 yes

    9 grown

    10 week;y/montly

    11 1-3 months after carefull testing

    12. no

    14 brush, belt, slipper, paddle

    15 real life

    16 realife - girlfriend

    17 reallife adult

    18 true offences

    19 red+

    20 if they must

    21 relieved/satisfaction

    22 soft

    23 consservative/everyday

    24 no/yes people I know


    25 both

    26 no

    27 OTK, over chair

    28 no

    29 yes - girlfirend

    3- na

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  29. Filled this out and you didn't publish. M 65-plus, Divorced.

    Curtis

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  30. Sorry, Curtis, but I don't moderate the comments. They go directly in, so something must have gone awry when you entered it.

    Your just going to have to fill it out again! What fun.

    Miss F

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  31. male, 60, married

    1. 20's

    2. girlfriend

    3. foreplay

    4. inside

    5.yes

    6. curious and very obliging

    7. n/a

    8. grown

    9. grown

    10. that the depends on the type of spanking.

    foreplay; weekly

    attitude adjustment; monthly

    severe punishment; about every 6 months or so.

    11. n/a

    12. accepting

    13. hand, hairbrush, leather strap, and leather paddle

    14. temperature taking, cunnilingus, corner time, face slapping during the scolding, and intercourse for a foreplay spanking.

    15. real life and roleplay

    16.wife

    17. adult

    18. true and made-up

    19. that depends on the type of spanking
    foreplay; pink to red
    attitude adjustment; red to red +
    severe punishment; red+++with tears

    20. okay if it happens. with attitude adjustment and punishment spankings I always have marks. sometimes for a week or more. looking at those marks days after the licking are a big turn on for me.

    21. feelings range from turned on to remorse for wrong doing depending on the severity

    22. reaction ranges from erect to limp depending on severity. severe punisment spankings have no sexual pleasure for me. at least not while they are going on.

    23. i prefer provocative with bare breasts, but for real punishment i get matronly and conservative.

    24. I've been spanked, severely, with my sister-in-law present in the house but not in the spanking room. I'm sure she heard everything and she saw the aftermath. She saw my red and bruised behind draped over the bed, propped up on pillows, with my legs spread apart by the corner of the mattress and a chilled thermometer deeply inserted in my rectum. Her only comment was "OH MY! THAT'S A VERY RED BACKSIDE" She never said another word about it.

    25. both

    26. Yes. my wife told her two sisiters that she spanks me. She's threatened me with the woodshed in front of them, and as you read in #24, she's given me a well deserved strapping while one of them was saying with us and let her look at my spanked ass.

    27.I prefer flat on the bed therefore i don't get that. I get on the bed, on all fours, head down, ass up and legs spread apart.

    28. Yes. I think the pain and the remorse for wrong doing contributed equally to the tears.

    29. well, I live with my spanker and I see her every day.

    30. n/a


    Is your face slapped during scolding?
    Who prepares you? Are you totally naked?
    Who decides when the spanking is over? I sure don't. Not ever!

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  32. Male, 51, married
    1. 40’s
    2. wife
    3. foreplay
    4. Inside
    5. yes
    6. obliging
    7. N/A
    8. N/A
    9. grown
    10. every six months
    11. N/A
    12. accepting
    13. hand, paddle brush
    14. strap-on, prostate massage, cunnilingus, fellatio
    15. real life, roleplay
    16. wife
    17. adult
    18. true offenses
    19. red
    20. okay if it happens
    21. turned on, pain
    22. remain soft
    23. casual
    24. No, No
    25. private
    26. No
    27. OTK
    28. No
    29. No
    30. N/A

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  33. male, 53, married
    1. 432. aquaintance
    3. fun
    4. outside
    5. oblidging, playful
    8. N/A
    9. grown
    10 every six months
    12 no
    13 hand, paddle, ruler, strap
    12, corner time, panty play, prostate massage, strap on, felatio, cunnilingus, intercourse, jerking off
    15 no roleplay
    18 usually play offenses, but would like to try rea19 red, would like to try to tears
    20 proud
    21, sometimes turned on, enjoyment, relaxation, pain
    22 usually I remain soft, but I have been known to get hard with the right teasing..
    23. provocrative or sexual
    No, yes. She has teased me about watching another woman use a strapon on me. I wouldn't mind being spanked in front of or by her girlfriends
    25 private
    26 almost
    27 over her bare or nylon covered thighs, over a chair, on the bed, over the car28 almost. Would love to feel what it is like

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  34. male, 44, married

    1. 20's
    2. pro
    3. punishment
    4. outside
    5. yes she does but basically chooses to ignore it
    6. repulsed
    7. no
    8. n/a
    9. mostly grown but the urge does have it's peaks and valleys
    10. once or twice a year
    11. n/a
    12. both
    13. hand, brush paddle
    14. i'd try all those that you mentioned.
    15. roleplay or real life. but the rl must be real.
    16. aunt, teacher, neighbor friends mom
    17. late teen to early adult
    18. all
    19. i'd love to get to real tears but so far have not
    20. ok if it happens and wife is away for a while lol
    21. turned on beforehand, pain during and afterwards depending on the experience, releif, good to what a dope i was.
    22. leak
    23. all except the leather
    24. no but would try it with trusted friend of spanker
    25. private
    26. no
    27. all but especially those where i have no control
    28. no
    29. i would prefer regular spanker but sometimes doesnt lend itself
    30. trust and communication build over time. spankings get better and better.


    patrick

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  35. TYPE IN THE FOLLOWING:
    Gender, Age, Marital Status
    (male, 58, married

    1. 40's,
    2. wife ?
    3. fun
    4. Inside
    5. Yes
    6. curious
    7. N/A
    8. N/A
    9. grown
    10. monthly
    11.N/A
    12. accepting
    13. hand, brush, paddle, belt, ruler,
    14. none,
    15. no situation?
    16. NONE
    17. adult
    18. For true offences
    19. red
    20. okay if it happens
    21. turned on, satisfaction, pain
    22. get an erection sometimes, orgasm occasionally
    23. everyday casual,
    24. No) Yes, people you know?
    25. both)
    26. No
    27. OTK, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat,
    28. No)
    29. No
    30. N/A

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  36. (male, 55, single)

    1. 20

    2. Two female friends

    3. fun (maybe foreplay)

    4. Outside (had no committed relationship at the time)

    5. Currently have no significant other

    6. N/A

    7. N/A

    8. N/A

    9. grown

    10. I currently have no one to spank me

    11. Not currently dating but depending on who I might date, I would disclose my interest up front or NEVER

    12. Both

    13. I prefer to be spanked with: hand, paddle, belt, ruler, riding crop

    14. prostate massage, strap-on (maybe - have never done it), fellatio, cunnilingus, rimming, and intercourse

    15. real life situations (not sure what you mean by this, but I think so) or no situation?

    16. If I did like roleplay I would like: aunt,teacher, boss, neighbor, therapist (maybe), girlfriend, and older sister's friend.

    17. teen or adult

    18. NONE

    19. pink or maybe red

    20. no thanks

    21. While being spanked do you feel: all of the above - turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, and pain

    22. get an erection and (hopefully) orgasm

    23. No preference

    24. No - unless it counts that I've been spanked by two women. Would I be willing to be? Yes - females only - strangers or spankers/spankees I know

    25. Prefer to keep it private

    26. No

    27. OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, on bed in diaper position, and "wheelbarrow" position

    28. Tears? No

    29. Do I see one disciplinarian regularly? No - don't know how to find one. Do you seek variety? Perhaps I would like that.

    30. If I were to go to one a professional Domestic Disciplinarian, I would seek a caring person who I could trust implicitly.

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  37. Male, 48, married

    1. 20´s
    2. Pro
    3. Fun
    4. N/A
    5. Yes
    6. Not interested
    7. No
    8. N/A
    9. Grown
    10. Monthly
    11. N/A
    12. Accepting.
    13. hand, brush, slipper, paddle
    14. All mentioned
    15. Roleplay and real life
    16. Aunt, grandmother, teacher, boss, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, girlfriend, wife.
    17. Child.
    18. True and made up offences.
    19. To tears.
    20. Okay if it happens.
    21. Turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction.
    22. Remain soft, leak fluid.
    23. Matronly, conservative.
    24. No. Yes willing. Strangers.
    25. Private.
    26. No.
    27. OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, on couch, on bed with bottom propped up, on bed in diaper position, nose to wall.
    28. No.
    29. One on regularly basis.
    30. She should be caring, nursing, honest and absolutely 100 % stern and no nonsense.

    Ms. Francy : I LOOOOOOOVE this blog. It´s absolutely amazing and I think it describes, EXACTLY how any / all relationships should work.
    The best place to be, is over a stern womans knee.
    I LOVE IT ! !

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  38. Male, 65-plus, divorced, switch

    1. Gave early teens, got early 20s.

    2. Girlfriend

    3. Fun.

    4. Inside a somewhat committed relationship.

    5. Don't have a present significant other. My former wife and I played spanking games during courtship, for five years while we loved together and then after two years of marriage, she announced that she didn't like it. So, had an essentially sexless marriage (great for raising one child) until I decided that I didn't want to be sexless for the rest of my life. Answered an ad. Led to a torrid, spanking sexual relationship for four years which both led to a divorce and end of the other relationship because she decided -- despite a deep emotional involvement -- that she wanted someone younger and richer.

    5. N/A She did.

    6. N/A

    7. N/A Presently. No at the beginning and then yes toward the end of the marriage. Was both giving and getting.

    8. See 4 above.

    9. My desire both ways has remained constant at a very high level.

    10. When I was having my affair, about twice a week. Now, mostly at parties, although I had been dating two people one of whom i introduced to spanking and she enjoyed it greatly and the other was already into it both ways as I am, but wanted more of a relationship than I could give her.

    11. Almost immediately. It's at the core of my sexuality and I've found that any woman whose bottom is an erogenous zone can be introduced and enjoy spanking. Going the other way is harder, since it involves to some a psychological adjustment.

    12. Accepting. Was furtive. Now I'm too old to care about what others think. Don't advertise but also don't hide. It's just who I am and it is something that perhaps millions enjoy.

    13. Hand.

    14. Ideally sex. Spanking is, to me, fun, erotic and sexual. If it can be part of lovemaking so much the better.

    15. Real life, spontaneous, but also could do role play.

    16. Adult

    17. Made up.

    19. I believe the allure of spanking is to inflict or receive a pleasurable sting, which, depending on the day, can be pink or red, but tears are not part of my desires either way.

    20. Not interested, but some people park easily an if that's not creating long-term discomfort then it's OK.

    21. Either way turned on.

    22. Sometimes get orgasm. Sometimes leads to mutual orgasms through sex.

    23. Provocative is always nice.

    24. Yes, at parties.

    25. Neither excited nor not. Prefer not to be outed but in a room of consenting adults into spanking not afraid to play.

    26. No.

    27. OTK and, sometimes, with the lady sitting (preferably bare-bottomed)on my back facing my rear.

    28. No and don't want to be. Not interested in real pain. Stinging pleasure is what it's all about for me..

    29. No. Like variety but also desire a LTR with spanking and emotional empathy which may or may not allow variety.

    30. N/A/

    Curtis

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  39. TYPE IN THE FOLLOWING:
    Male, 39, Separated

    1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking? 30's

    2. Was it administered by an acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, wife or professional? Professional

    3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay? Fun

    4. Was it inside of an existing committed relationship or outside of it? Outside

    5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? Yes, my current partner knows but reluctant though not opposed to the idea

    6. If so, what was her response to it? curious

    7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? No

    8. If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened or N/A? Not discussed with her lately. The last time we agreed to put off the discussion for later.

    9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years? Has remained same or maybe even grown to an extent

    10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately? yearly on an average

    11. If you are dating, how soon do you express this desire to someone? I did it in 6 months into my current relationship

    12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire? Accepting

    13. Choose as many as you like from the following. I prefer to be spanked with: hand,slipper, paddle, belt, cane, ruler,flogger, whip

    14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings: verbal sympathy and caressing

    15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation? role play

    16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be - sort of an executioner carrying out a sentence on me. Usually a sentence for the good of community or wrong accusation, therefore the sympathy from the executioner.

    17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult? Adult

    18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE? As above

    19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears? To tears

    20. How do you feel about marks? (no thanks, okay if it happens, yes please)Okay if it happens

    21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain, other - Turned on while being stripped and put in position, followed by Pain and then turned on again while thinking of the entire session

    22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER (please write in)? Remain soft

    _some new questions suggested by readers_

    23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer - prim or everyday casual

    24. Have you been spanked in front of others? No

    Would you be willing to be? Yes

    If yes, strangers or people you know? Either

    25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? There are some who I hope will find out and be willing to spank me

    26. Have you ever been outed? No

    27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? OTK, over chair, on couch, on bed with bottom propped up, on a spanking / caning horse or bench

    28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? Yes, caned
    If so, what caused it? Excessive pain,

    29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? Infrequently
    Do you seek variety? Yes

    30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian? Full understanding of my fantasy and natural creativitity rather than just follow a script

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  40. male , 37, married

    1. late teens
    2. acquantance
    3. punishment
    4. outside
    5. yes
    6. delighted
    7. na
    8. grown
    9. grown
    10. weekly at least
    11. na
    12. accepting
    13. brush, paddle
    14. corner time, forced feminization
    15. roleplay and real life
    16. friends mother
    17. young adult, teen
    18. true offenses
    19. to tears
    20. what ever happens - happens
    21. humiliation and pain
    22. stay soft
    23. matronly
    24. yes - stranger
    25. risk
    26. yes - my wifes best friend knows she spanks me
    27. OTK
    28. yes - pain and roleplay
    29. No - got everything I need right here
    30. na

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  41. Male, 52, married

    1. early 40s

    2. girlfriend/(former)play partner

    3. prolonged foreplay prior to
    "Clintonian" sex


    4. outside

    5. yes

    6. alternating between
    begrudgingly obliging and
    repulsed

    7. no. you gotta do...

    8. no signigicant change

    9. grown

    10. every 4-6 months

    11. exeedingly delicate question
    but not applicable

    12. accepting

    13. hand, hairbrush, slipper
    paddle, belt, leather slapper

    14. corner time, observed
    masturbation, underwear
    two sizes small to begin

    15. roleplay and real life

    16. roleplay: not "mommy" per se,
    but getting what mommy "used"
    to give and incorporating this
    into dialogue during spanking
    (despite NEVER spanked as
    child)

    17. adult...sometimes teen spanked
    by friend's mother after being
    "caught in the act"

    18. combination

    19. glowing red-crimson

    20. ok if it happens

    21. all of the above

    22. leak fluid, sometimes palpably
    aroused to spanker

    23. everyday casual, conservative,
    sometimes both parties nude
    (obviously not within context
    of professional encounter)

    24. no. and yes, in front of
    strangers

    25. as private as is practical

    26. not truly outed...though once
    I got there just in time as
    a child (at age 9 or so) popped
    in the video "Suburban Brats"
    and asked what it was by name.
    Crisis skillfully averted!

    27. OTK, leglocked with wrists
    eventually pinned in small
    of back--on couch or chair.
    Also over sofa arm and propped
    up over pillows on bed

    28. No

    29. Yes...remain within assortment
    of creative parameters

    30. Knows me to the core, protects
    my secrets and privacy. Is a
    true friend within mutually
    respected boundaries

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  42. 1 45 after a few years urging
    2 Wife
    3 Punishment
    4 Inside
    5 Yes I mean I'd dropped so many hints
    6 Obliging and a bi curious
    7 N/A
    8 Grown
    9 Grown
    10 Varies but twice a year
    11 Varies
    12 Accepting [the older I got the more it grew, and yes was spanked as a child]
    13 Hand slipper
    14 That she wears stockings [so that I can feel the suspender as lie over] and that I am sent to the corner. This mnst be a thowback to my mother some 40odd years ago
    15 Roleplay
    16 Aunty
    17 Adult
    18 One true happening
    19 Pink/Red
    20 So be it
    21 Humiliated, embarasment yet a form of enjoyment
    22 Remain soft and just enjoy the mment
    23 As long as its a dress I'm not that pussed
    24 No [well as a child once], No
    25 Private
    26 No
    27 otk over one knee legs split
    28 once we where visiting her family and I had one to many and made a show of myself and to end it all I got sick over her new dress when she reading the riot act when we got home. She spanked me sober then put me in the corner for a half hour and spanked me again until I broke downm and balled. I'm serious but I had to sit on cushion for 2 or 3 days
    29 No
    30 As I get from my wife but I don't thnk it would be the same

    Paddy P

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  43. Male, 58, Married

    1. 25
    2. Wife
    3. Foreplay
    4. Inside
    5. Yes
    6. Obliging
    7. N/A
    8. Grown
    9. No change
    10. One or twice a week
    11. N/A
    12, Both
    13. Paddle
    14. I like to wear panties before being paddled and always have intercourse afterwards.
    15. Any or all is fine with me
    16. Teacher, boss, neighbor, wife, all work for me
    17. My bottom is a teenager and my mind is adult
    18. Either
    19. Red
    20. OK, if it happens
    21 Very turned on
    22. Always erect, before, during and after
    23. Any of these are fine with me
    24, Yes, Yes, people I know
    25. Both
    26. No
    27. Kneeling with nose to the floor is great
    I also like to bend over the bed keeping my legs straight
    My wife likes to paddle me OTK
    28. Not as an adult
    29. N/A

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  44. MATT (Married and Tantrum Trained)3/2/07, 9:11 PM

    TYPE IN THE FOLLOWING:
    Male, 34, In a DD relationship

    1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking? 30's

    2. Was it administered by an acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, wife or professional? Wife

    3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay? Fun and then turned into punishment after sharing the DWC site and videos with her.

    4. Was it inside of an existing committed relationship or outside of it? Inside. We were and still are married.

    5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? Yes, and she administers them when she feels they are appropriate.

    6. If so, what was her response to it? Try it and see where it goes.

    7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? NA

    8. If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened or N/A? About the same.

    9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years? The desire is there, but there is a sesnse of relief now that she knows and puts me over her knee.

    10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately? 1.5 times per month.

    11. If you are dating, how soon do you express this desire to someone? I hinted at it when we starting dating. I told my wife four years into our marriage.

    12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire? Accepting, but do sometimes feel a little self-indulgent.

    13. Choose as many as you like from the following. I prefer to be spanked with: hand or paddle

    14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings: a stern talking to, corner time. My wife prefers me to keep my briefs on and swat the seat of them. She feels it makes me look like a young boy and I should feel some humility.

    15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation? real-life and sometimes role play

    16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be - perhaps be a school teacher or have some sort of authoritative position.

    17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult? adult

    18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE? any offence

    19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears? stinging and pink

    20. How do you feel about marks? (no thanks, okay if it happens, yes please) okay if it happens

    21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain, other - turned on which leads to further embarrassment

    22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER (please write in)? an erection at first and then it sometimes goes soft but leaves a wet spot on the front of my briefs

    _some new questions suggested by readers_

    23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer - casual or mom-like

    24. Have you been spanked in front of others? No

    Would you be willing to be? No

    If yes, strangers or people you know? NA

    25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? If they find out I don't think I would mind.

    26. Have you ever been outed? No, but my wife has hinted it to others.

    27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? over my wife's knee.

    28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? No.

    29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? No
    Do you seek variety? No

    30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian? NA

    MATT (Married and Tantrum Trained)

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  45. mark redden3/18/07, 1:37 AM

    male, 53, single

    1. Late teens 2. Girlfriend 3. Fun well kind of. Actually it was payback. I had recently spanked her (she dared me to and she had been teasing) but although it was very short - she thought it was too hard. So she got her revenge.

    4. Inside

    5. No

    6. not interested

    7. N/A

    The Internet - chat and forums - has been marvellous at helping me deal with what really is a sexual orientation.

    8. N/A

    9. desire is about the same. But the shame is reduced.

    10. six months

    11. first few dates now

    12. used to be ashamed. Now accepting though not completely so

    13.hand brush slipper belt cane birch and rubber dog loopy - no that's absolute agony!

    14. temperature taking, prostate massage, strap-on, other enema and diaper play (not ageplay though) intercourse.

    15. roleplay, real life situations and no situation.

    16. teacher, neighbour, boss, nurse, nun, judge or court official

    17. teen or adult

    18. true offences or none

    19. red

    20. okay if it happens

    21. turned on, enjoyment, dreamy trance

    22. sometimes erection, sometimes become soft

    23. conservative or everyday casual

    24. in front of others - No. willing to be Yes - strangers

    25. not excited by risk of being found out. Keep it fairly private.

    26. Went to stay with lady friend and her family. Neighbour came out and said "Who's this the Vicar", indicating me.
    "No" she said, "I assure you he's no vicar, his girlfriend spanks him all the time." I had no idea that girl had discussed it with her.

    27. OTK. Bent over back of armchair - wrists tied.

    28. Yes Excessive pain

    29. Two regular friends.

    30. Don't go to professional. Too embarrassing too painful, too expensive.

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  46. Male, 32, single

    1. Late Teens
    2. Friend
    3. Fun
    Somehow it came up that I liked to be spanked and my friend was interested enough to actually spank me with a belt as I did housework. She never took me past the point of good, stinging pain so I had a lot of fun.
    4. N/A
    5. N/A (Yes)
    6. N/A (Obliging)
    7. N/A
    8. N/A (Lessened)
    9. Grown
    I'm not in a relationship presently but all of my past girlfriends have been obliging at best. This probably contributes to the growth in my desire to be spanked, though it does wax and wane over time.
    10. Every six months, though I like it more often than that.
    11. First few dates. No sense in wasting their time if they aren't into it.
    12. Accepting. This doesn't mean that I'm completely without embarrassment when it comes to my desires, though.
    13. hand, belt, ruler, flogger, tawse. I'm curious about the slipper. I've only been paddled a couple of times but it was highly effective. Ditto the hairbrush, which is in a category all its own due to the intersection of its effectiveness with its huge symbolic undertones of F/m discipline.
    14. Strap-on, cunnilingus, rimming, intercourse, fellatio. Strap-on is divine but any sexual activity after a spanking is particularly intimate for me.
    15. role-play and no situation. Real life situations may work as well but I've not dated anyone into domestic discipline. Does "I just want to spank you" count as a real life situation?
    16. Teacher, boss, neighbor, therapist, girlfriend, wife, coworker
    17. Adult
    18. Made-up offenses or none
    19. pink or red. Don't know about being spanked to tears because I've never been there.
    20. Okay if it happens. They're not a requirement for me but the few times that I've been marked I've invariably admired them in appreciation later.
    21. Turned on, enjoying it, pain, satisfaction. At first, I'm turned on and very much enjoying it. At some point the pain takes over and remains the dominant feeling for the rest of the spanking. After the spanking is over, satisfaction quickly replaces the pain and it's not uncommon for me to become turned on again.
    22. Erection. I start with an erection but that fades rather quickly, though it might leak some fluid before it does.
    23. If there's role-play involved then the dress can be anything appropriate to the role-play. If there's not any role-play involved then prim is probably the closest to what I like: skirt, blouse and thigh-highs or hose.
    24. No. Yes, if it's people that I respect and trust to properly appreciate the scene.
    25. Private though this is really an N/A question since most people who know me fairly well pick up on this aspect of me. Generally, though, I like to keep people guessing. :D
    26. Yes. As I mentioned above, many people are able to intuit my masochism and I've yet to have a girlfriend that doesn't talk about my odd tastes at some point or another.
    27. OTK, OTK scissor lock (almost necessary for a real spanking session; I usually can't help but squirm over time), over couch/ottoman, over desk
    28. No
    29. Not yet, no
    30. If I ever go to a professional disciplinarian my hope would be that she would be able to form an accurate picture of my limits, needs and desires. As long as she had that the result would be bound to be one smoking hot spanking!

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  47. M, 57, single

    1) 29
    2) Pro
    3) fun (hard)
    4) Outside
    5-8 N/A
    9) lesened
    10) 2x year
    11) it depends
    12) ashamed
    13) hand, hairbrush, paddle (all hard)
    14) cornertime, scolding
    15) roleplay, real life
    16) Mommy
    17) child 10-12
    18) true
    19) red or tears (difficult to cry)
    20) marks, no bleeding
    21) turned on, pain, love
    22) soft
    23) maternal conservative
    24) Yes, over 100, at a club, strangers
    25) private (now)
    26) yes, friend, took him to club to see, couldn't play with him there
    27)OTK for certain!!
    28) close (hard for me to cry, been spanked real hard)
    29) I wish that I had a regular spanker, I am poor now.
    30) understanding, parental manner

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  48. male, 27, attached

    1. 20's
    2. girlfriend
    3. fun
    4. inside, or rather the beginning, knowing eachother for less then 2 weeks
    5. yes
    6. delighted
    7.N/A
    8. grown with time
    9. grown over the years
    10. weekly
    11. 1-3 months
    12. accepting
    13. birch, brush, rattan carpet beater, hand, belt
    14. corner time, temperature taking, strap-on, cunnilingus
    15. roleplay and real life situations, preferably the latter
    16. mommy, aunt, teacher, boss, neighbor, friend's mother
    17. child, teen, adult
    18 true offences, preferably
    19. to tears, unfortunatly this have not happend yet despite great effort
    20. yes please
    21. tured on, excited and a bit apprehensive at first, pain, panic, fear and humilitation during, exhaustion, feeling sorry for one self and satification after.
    22. erection at first, but go soft during, erection again after

    23. prim, matronly, conservative
    24. no, hav not ben spanked in front of others. In my fantasies, yes, in front of strangers
    25. Risk, excited by it
    26. I don't know what "outed" is, sorry, English is not my native tongue
    27. OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, on bed, with bottom propped up, tied down over kitchen table
    28. no
    29. no, have not been seeing a disciplinarian, but I do seek variety in different ways
    30. A strict no-nonsense type, preferably old/er, skilled verbally, beeing able to make me feel small and ashamed, commanding, making me cry

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  49. Male, 50, Single

    1. 40's

    2. Professional?

    3. Fun

    4. Outside

    5. Not applicable

    6. Not applicable

    7. Not applicable

    8. Not applicable

    9. Grown

    10. Monthly

    11. Not applicable

    12. Accepting

    13. Hand, brush, slipper, paddle, belt, cane, ruler, ferule, wooden spoon, ruler

    14. Panty play, forced feminization, temperature taking, prostate massage, strap-on, fellatio, cunnilingus, rimming, intercourse

    15. Roleplay, real life situations

    16. Mommy, aunt, grandmother, teacher, boss, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, girlfriend, wife, sister

    17. Child, teen, adult?

    18. For true offences, made-up ones

    19. Tears?

    20. okay if it happens

    21. Calmed

    22. Remain soft

    23. Prim

    24. Have you been spanked in front of strangers? No Would you be willing to be? Yes If yes, strangers or people you know? Both

    25. Both

    26. No

    27. OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee

    28. No

    29. I see one disciplinarian regularly

    30. I would like to build some level of trust where I feel safe to emote and cry, and the professional does not feel scared of spanking me too hard

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  50. Greg Smythe
    Male, 60, Married 37 yrs

    1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking?
    30's

    2 It administered by my wife.

    3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay?
    Combination; fun and foreplay
    It was inside of an existing committed relationship

    5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? (Yes,

    6. If so, what was her response to it,
    Varied from not interested to at times repulsed)

    7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? No

    How do you deal with it, emotionally?
    Very difficult emotionally, tends to ad tremendous guilt to the spankings I receive outside thus reducing any possible rewarding feelings I could receive from them

    8. If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened or N/A?
    Grown thanks to the quality of your books and websites

    9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years?
    grown tremendously, like the surfer always seeking the “perfect spanking”

    10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately?
    Every 3 to 4 weeks, or when I throw a hissy fit for not getting one; whichever comes 1st

    11. If you are dating, how soon do you express this desire to someone? (first few dates, 1-3 months, 6 mos - one year, first few years, many years later, NEVER)

    12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire?
    Not anymore thanks to people like you

    13. Choose as many as you like from the following. I prefer to be spanked with:
    hand, brush, slipper, paddle, belt, cane, ruler, ferule, switch, wooden spoon

    14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings:
    corner time, panty play, minor forced feminization, strap-on, cunnilingus, intercourse, scolding
    15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations,
    Combination of both

    16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be;
    teacher, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, girlfriend, wife,

    17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult?
    14 to 16 y/o
    Young Adult
    Adult

    18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE?
    Both

    19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears?
    We have progressed to the stage that I would love it if she could bring me to tears

    20. How do you feel about marks?
    okay if it happens,

    21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain.
    Hopefully in a good session, all of the above

    22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm,
    I have experienced all of the above

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  51. 23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer:
    prim, matronly, conservative, everyday casual, provocative, soft sexy lingerie

    24. Have you been spanked in front of others?
    No)
    Would you be willing to be? I like to believe so provided they were strangers and they discovered us accidentally

    25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private?
    The risk of potential discovery is exciting and always in the back of my mind

    26. Have you ever been outed? No.

    27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most?
    OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK, over chair, on couch, over arm of couch, spread across the table, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, over corner of bed , kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on chair, across a hassock

    28. Have you ever been spanked to tears?
    No, but getting closer?

    29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly?
    Not really perhaps 1 or 2 times a yr if things are difficult at home


    30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional
    Domestic Disciplinarian.

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  52. Male 66, Married



    1. Late Teens


    2.
    Professional

    3.
    Punishment

    4. Outside


    5.
    Yes

    6.
    Delighted

    7. Doesn't mind my being spanked by others.


    8. OH YES!!


    9.
    Grown

    10.
    Weekly

    11. N?A


    12.
    Accepting

    13.
    Hand, strap, paddle, cane, most implements.

    14. ) Corner time, forced Fem, strap-on, oral sex (giving)


    15.
    Depends I like it all

    16. Aunt, Mommy, Wife


    17. Adult


    18.
    TRUE

    19. Red and to tears


    20. Marks are fine


    21.
    all of the above

    22.
    Depends

    _some new questions suggested by readers_

    (If you've already answered and want to answer these as well, copy and paste your entire original posting then add on your new answers. I will then delete your original! Easy!)


    23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer (prim, matronly, conservative, everyday casual, provocative, overtly sexual, leather n' stuff.)Heels, stockings slip or dress


    24. Have you been spanked in front of others? (Yes, No) Would you be willing to be? (Yes, No) If yes, strangers or people you know?
    Yes plenty of times, and strangers, and people we know. Am sometimes spanked by wife's girlfriends

    25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? (Risk or private or both)

    BOTH
    26. Have you ever been outed? (Yes, No) If Yes, describe. NO


    27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? (OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, on bed in diaper position, kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on knees, nose to wall, other - ?) Any and all


    28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? (Yes, No) If so, what caused it? (Excessive pain, you felt you had disappointed your spanker, you felt you had disappointed yourself, the roleplay was young age, other - ?) Yes by my wife, it was once, and it was the mood of play.


    29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? Do you seek variety? Don't visit them anymore


    30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian?

    Compassion, and strict.

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  53. Male, 33, married

    1. 21
    2. Girlfriend
    3. Foreplay
    4. Inside
    5. Yes.
    6. Delighted
    7. NA
    8. Lessened
    9. Grown
    10.every six months
    11. 1-3 months
    12. Accepting
    13. Hand, brush, paddle, belt
    14. Corner time, strap on
    15. Real life situations
    16. Wife, girlfriend
    17. Teen, adult
    18. True offenses
    19. Red
    20. Yes please
    21. Satisfaction
    22. Get an erection
    23. Everyday casual
    24. No. yes. Strangers, maybe certain people I know
    25. A little of both
    26. No.
    27. Otk, scissor lock, on bed lying flat, bent over the edge of the bed or bathroom sink
    28. No
    29. One disciplinarian
    30. I want my disciplinarian to tell me what i'm getting and why. I shouldn't have a say in the matter if i'm being punished

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    Replies
    1. Male, 68 Married

      (1) 18
      (2) Pro
      (3) Fun
      (4) Outside
      (5) Yes
      (6) Delighted
      (7) N/A
      (8) Grown
      (9) Grown
      (10) Weekly, sometimes monthly
      (11) N/A
      (12) Accepting (very)
      (13) Hand, hairbrush, bath brush, paddles, straps, cane almost anything!!
      (14) mouth-washing, corner time, panty play, forced feminization, temperature taking, prostate massage, strap-on, fellatio, cunnilingus, intercourse.
      (15) roleplay, real life situations.
      (16) mommy, aunt,teacher, boss, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, girlfriend, wife.
      (17) adult
      (18) true offenses and made-up ones.
      (19) red,and to tears.
      (20) okay if it happens.
      (21) All
      (22) It varies I may get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, it all really depends on things.
      (23) prim, matronly, conservative, everyday casual, provocative, overtly sexual.
      (24) Yes, Yes, people I know
      (25) Both
      (26) No
      (27) OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, on bed in diaper position,standing.
      (28) Yes Connection and bonding with my Wife.
      (29) Yes my Wife, but she does allow some of her girlfriends to also spank me. She would also allow me to see a Pro, I'm sure she'd like to go along also.
      (30) Compassion, and a good hard spanking!!

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  54. barebottomboy
    Male, 55, Married


    1. Late Teens

    2. Girlfriend

    3. Punishment, Fun and foreplay


    4. Outside


    5. Yes

    6. obliging

    7. NA

    8. Growen

    9. Growen

    10. weekly

    11. NA

    12. Accepting

    13. Hand, belt, ruler, flogger, slapper, crop

    14. Corner time, Temperture taking,strap-on,cunningus,rimming, butt plugs, forced masturbation

    15. roleplay

    16. Mommy, aunt,teacher,girlfriend, wife

    17. child and teen

    18. made up ones

    19. red

    20. ok if happens

    21. turned on, embarassed, humiliated

    22. All of the above

    23. everyday casual

    24. Yes, Yes, both

    25. both

    26. Yes, 50th bday Vegas. Wife told me it was time to go to our hotel room. I was stripped naked and made to bend over a couch. Their is a knock on the door. I start to go hide, my wife says stay right there. I do she opens the door to a good looking female 30ish she was a room service waitress. She comes in sees my bent over legs spread naked bodie with a hint of pink on my bottom. My wife tell her that its my birthday and I'm being spanked. She giggles and says that will be whatever it was do you want to charge it to the room. My wife says no I would like the naughty boy to get his wallet and give you cash if thats ok with you. She giggles again and says sure. I go to my wallet which exposes my front side I'm totally embarassed. Hand her the money with a big tip and my wife spanks me 4 times with her hand and tells me to assume the position. They chat a little and she leaves giggling. Later she had 2 escorts up to the room and it was hot.

    27. on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up,kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on knees,bent over a chair or couch

    28. yes the role play was a young age

    29. one, yes

    30. Her to play her role and punish me red and then take me with a strap-on.

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  55. Male, 43, Married

    1.30’s

    2.Wife

    3.Foreplay

    4.Inside

    5.Yes

    6.Curious and a little reluctant, but obliging.

    7.NA

    8.Grown. My wife seems a bit shy on the subject and she is reluctant to initiate what I call a “formal” spanking session, but will oblige if I ask. By formal spanking I mean a spanking where she is fully dressed or dressed in lingerie and I am naked, and there are spanking implements used. I don’t think she will admit it, but I think that she finds spanking me sexy, for her body gives me clues. For my fortieth birthday, I asked her for a formal birthday spanking. She dressed up for me, in a sexy dress, high heeled boots, and black lace top thigh high stockings. After she gave me forty whacks with a wooded spatula, I was left with a red rear end and a throbbing erection. So I took her upstairs to the bedroom, helped her out of her dress. There she was, on the bed wearing only her stockings and high heeled boots. Lets just say that I found her very wet. Although my wife is reluctant to initiate formal spankings, I am glad to say that spanking has become a regular part of our love making. During intercourse, whenever I am on top, my wife will give my rear end a good spanking with her hand! There is no reluctance on her part when we make love. I think she is more comfortable with initiating a spanking in the fits of passion then the formal spanking sessions.

    9.Grown

    10.Weekly

    11.NA

    12.Ashamed

    13.I love when my wife spanks me with her hand during intercourse. I also like to be spanked with the wooded spoon, the belt, bath brush, ruler, ping pong paddle, wood spatula, paint mixing paddle and, of course, the hairbrush.

    14.I like spanking during intercourse, as I have mentioned above. I also think that cunnilingus is a perfect compliment to a good spanking. Few things are better than when I have a glowing warm rear end from a formal spanking session and I am going down on my wife to show my appreciation. As I pleasure her with my mouth, I love to find her all wet after she has given me a good spanking. The oral sex between us is mostly non-reciprocal, for my wife does not enjoy performing fellatio, and this adds to the experience for some reason I can’t explain. After a spanking, I have also enjoyed masturbating in front of my wife and having her step on me with her high heels.

    15.No situation

    16.NA

    17.Adult

    18.I do not like to be spanked for offences, but I will submit to a spanking from my wife for any reason she wants.

    19.Red

    20.Marks are OK if they happen.

    21.Turned on

    22.While receiving a spanking during intercourse, I am fully erect and finish with an orgasm. For non-intercourse spanking it varies. Before and after a spanking I am erect. During the spanking sometimes I am erect, and sometimes I am soft, usually during harder spankings. I am always leaking fluid drops.

    23.I like the spanker to be dressed sexy, but not overtly so. I would like her dressed in the manner of a sexy secretary, or a hot librarian. High heels, tight pencil skirt, silk blouse, and a nice form fitting dress. Stockings and garters or thigh high stockings a must! Sexy lingerie is great dress for a spanking also. I find being naked in front of a fully dressed woman, or a woman in lingerie a turn on.

    24.I have not been spanked in front of others, and I would not be willing to.

    25.I like to keep our spanking private. The only exception might be if we went to shop that sold spanking implements. I might be willing to do that.

    26.I have never been outed.

    27.I like the over chair, on couch, standing, on bed laying flat positions but my favorite is OTK.

    28.I have never been spanked to tears. I like spanking for erotic fun only.

    29.NA

    30.NA

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  56. Male 54 and married

    1. 50's

    2. wife

    3. punishment

    4. Inside

    5. Yes

    6. obliging but not really enthusiastic

    7. n/a

    8. lessened

    9. grown

    10. 6 months

    11. n/a

    12. accepting

    13. paddle

    14. other: lecture

    15. real life

    16. NONE

    17. N/A

    18. For true offences

    19. pink

    20. no thanks

    21. satisfaction

    22. none


    (If you've already answered and want to answer these as well, copy and paste your entire original posting then add on your new answers. I will then delete your original! Easy!)


    23. everyday casual

    24. Have you been spanked in front of others? No
    Would you be willing to be? No

    25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? private

    26. Have you ever been outed? No


    27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? over chair,

    28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? No
    29. n/a
    30. n/a

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  57. MAle /60/Married
    1. 40s
    2. Wife
    3.Foreplay
    4.Inside
    5.YES!!!!!
    6.Reluctantly Obliging
    7.Not Aware....Lots of guilt
    8.N/A
    9.Grown
    10.every other month...(at best)
    11.N/A
    12.Accepting now...after initial shame
    13.hand, brush, slipper, paddle, belt, cane, Switch,
    14.corner time, panty play, MILD forced feminization,
    cunnilingus, intercourse.
    15.Role Play...and real Life
    16.neighbor,teacher,girlfriend, wife,
    17.Teen and Adult
    18.MAade Up
    19.From Red to tears
    20.ok if it happens
    21.Starts as pain and evolves to enjoyment,turned on,
    22. leak fluid, and sometimes orgasm
    23. all of the above
    24.NO....Think I'd like to try???? If not in fromt perhaps
    within ear shot....strangers
    25.Like the risk of others finding out provided they are
    not people we know
    26.NO
    27.OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee,
    over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with
    bottom propped up, Across end of bed, over a hassock
    28.NO
    29.Only looking for it from my wife
    30. N/A

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  58. Male, 47, married.
    1. 20's
    2. Neighbour
    3. Fun
    4. Outside
    5. Yes
    6. At first she was Obliging, Now she is Delighted
    7. N/A
    8. Grown with time
    9. Stayed the same
    10. Weekly - monthly
    11. 1-3 months
    12. Yes
    13. Brush, bath brush, slipper, paddle, cane, ruler,
    14. Corner time, panty play, cunnilingus, intercourse,
    15. Both, but prefer real life
    16. Aunt, teacher, boss, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, girlfriend, wife
    17. Teen, adult
    18. True offences
    19. To tears
    20. Yes please
    21. Pain
    22. Get an erection, become soft, leak fluid
    23. Prim, matronly, conservative,
    24. No / Yes if people I know
    25. Risk
    26. Yes, an ex g/f who thought it was wrong, told a mouthy all-man-type friend of mine. But he had previously emigrated, so was only an online friend and no longer in my circle of friends.
    27. OTK, OTK - scissor lock, over chair, standing with hands on knees
    28. Yes - felt I had disappointed my wife
    29. No / but have in past
    30. That she does not let me off and does it for real

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  59. Male, 50, Married
    1. 40's
    2. professional
    3. fun and foreplay
    4. Outside
    5. Yes
    6. Repulsed
    7. No and emotionally that bothers me (especially since our intimacy would be so enhanced) but I have needs
    8. N/A
    9. Grown
    10. every sx months
    11. N/A
    12. Accepting
    13. hand
    14. seduction, tease, denial for long time but ultimately playing with her breasts and/or spanking her, handjob, fellatio! The more women the better!
    15. Roleplay or anything
    16. teacher, boss, neighbor, girlfriend, wife, police officer, secretary or sexretary, massage therapist, doctor, waitress, nurse, wonderwoman....
    17. adult
    18. made-up ones or anything
    19. red
    20. no permanent marks otherwise okay
    21. turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, and pain
    22. get an erection
    23. prim, conservative, everyday casual, provocative, overtly sexual, leather n' stuff
    24. Yes! Yes! Strangers would be great; People I know would be sooo very hot!!!
    25. Both
    26. No but I really want to be
    27. OTK, over chair, over desk, tied up! As long as manhood and balls are hanging free for added vulnerability, exposure, and clarity about my excitement that I can't hide.
    28. No.
    29. Yes. Yes.
    30. I've written reams and reams. Basically, seduction, tease, denial (for a long time), and eventual release. All enjoyable (not stern or mean or angry) and catching me in situations I can't wriggle out of.

    I'd love some questions that are geared toward finding compatible matches through your site!

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  60. male,56,married

    1. 40's

    2. wife

    3. punishment

    4. inside

    5. Yes

    6. She wanted to as well

    7. n/a

    8 grown

    9. neutral

    10. as required - for rule violations so varies

    11. n/a

    12. neither

    13. hand / paddle

    14. corner time - cunnilingus

    15. real life

    16. none

    17. adult

    18. true offenses only

    19. red / tears

    20. never

    21. pain

    22. soft

    23. regular

    24. no / no

    25. private

    26. no

    27. OTK / OVER BACK OF PADDED CHAIR

    28. YES / PAIN

    29. WIFE IS DISCIPLINARIAN

    30 Wife is DD

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  61. 1. What age were you … 35


    2.administered by wife


    3. for punishment


    4. inside


    5. No


    6. It was wife’s idea


    7. N/A


    8. grown with time


    9. lessened over the years?


    10. Varies … @2 X per month


    11. N/A


    12. accepting


    13. paddle

    14. Corner time, mouth washing, mastaurbation


    15. real life situations


    16. wife

    17. adult


    18. true offences


    19. to tears


    20. okay if it happens


    21. pain


    22. Loose erection quickly



    23. conservative


    24. No


    25. private

    26. no


    27. OTK, over chair arm


    28. Always to tears


    29. NO


    30. Wife is DD

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  62. 1. 30s
    2. wife
    3. punishment and fun
    4. committed relationship - Inside
    5. Yes
    6. obliging
    7. N/A
    8. somewhat grown over time
    9. grown over the years
    10. every few months
    11. N/A
    12. both ashamed and accepting
    13. I prefer to be spanked seriously with a brush, paddle, or belt
    14. corner time
    15. role play and real life situations
    16. mommy, aunt, teacher, friend's mother, girlfriend, wife
    17. teen or adult
    18. both true offence and made-up ones
    19. very red to sometimes tears
    20. marks are fine, but she worries about them
    21. turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, and pain, all at the same time
    22. sometimes I get an erection
    23. prim, matronly, and conservative - a Southern matriarch is my preferred
    24. No and No
    25. keep this totally private
    26. No
    27. OTK, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, and standing
    28. Yes, caused by pain, but I wanted it
    29. No
    30. I would not want to be spanked by anyone but my wife

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  63. What about punishment spankings given immediately after he has been made to cum? Takes the fun out fast..its painful, as punishment should be.

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  64. Is this questionnaire still active?

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  65. otkloverjohn2/21/15, 11:21 PM

    Male, 64, Married
    1 30
    2 girlfriend
    3 foreplay
    4 inside
    5 Yes
    6 Delighted
    7 N/A
    8 Grown
    9 Grown
    10 Monthly
    11 N/A
    12 Accepting
    13 Hand, leather of all kinds (floggers, paddles, straps), hairbrush
    14 Corner time, punishment panties
    15 Like RL and roleplay and spanking parties
    16 Like all kinds of spankers - mommy, aunt, babysitter, boss, cop, doctor, dominatrix, therapist, teacher, neighbor, friend
    17 Like to be little when mommy, aunt, babysitter
    Like to be teen when teacher, neighbor or friend
    Like to be adult when other roles
    18 Most role plays are for made up crimes, but sometimes a few have overlapped to real reasons for spankings gladly given by them.
    19 It depends on situation and type of spanking being given - pink/red for most play; sometimes tears have happened for both play and RL
    20 marks sometimes happen or don't and that's just the way it is
    21 Enjoyment for fun and good boy spankings
    Contentment and warm feeling when know being spanked for my own good, even though it hurts like heck
    22 Often start out with erection at thought of getting spanked and then lose it when real spanking begins. Have regained erection and even come during a punishment spanking.
    23 I like the dress to fit the role if playing - can be anything from jeans and boots to latex/leather catsuit and everything in between.
    24 Yes - both known and unknown witnesses - for punishment spanking. Used to line up with my cousins, both male and female, all had our panties down and wait for our turn to go over my aunt's lap for our weekly spanking and feel her strap on our bare bottoms.
    Was also spanked by neighbors with their children present, and even outdoors if it was an immediate "on the spot" spanking, in front of God and everyone.
    25 Both - have to keep it private for "work" purposes, but also excited at prospect of someone hearing or seeing my spanking.
    26 Yes - my oldest children know of our lifestyle and our spanko play.
    27 OTK is my favorite - love the contact between our bodies. Love to feel their palm against my bare bottom. I also love to have my pantied butt spanked until hot and then feel the delicious sting of leather on my skin.
    28 Yes I have. Sometimes pain hits just right, sometimes emotions hit just right, and sometimes it just feels right - whether role play or rl.
    29 Nope - wife is only "disciplinarian" I see on any basis.
    30 N/A

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  66. Male, 50+, Married
    1. I was in my twenties when I received first adult bare-bottom spanking.
    2. My then-girlfriend was the first to spank me.
    3. She spanked me as part of foreplay at my request.
    4. Inside of an existing committed relationship.
    5. Yes, my wife knows that I desire to receive spankings. She's the one who gives them to me.
    6. My wife's initial response was finding it strange. Then she enjoyed it.
    7. My wife doesn't like being spanked and we're monogamous.
    8. My wife likes to give me mild spankings, but was never that interested in the harder stuff. She did it to please me (tying me up and paddling my buttocks and scolding me before licking my anus and then applying lubricant to finger me deeply).
    9. My desire to be spanked grew for many years and now it's not so strong.
    10. My wife spanks me with her perhaps every two months as part of lovemaking, but it's been a long time since we had a long session of hard spanking with a paddle. I need to ask her to do it again.
    11. I'm married.
    12. I am very accepting of my desire to be spanked.
    13. I prefer to be spanked with either hand or the back of a brush. A paddle would be nice, but I've never experienced that.
    14. To my spankings I most like to add prostate massage, fellatio, cunnilingus, rimming, and intercourse. We've done
    temperature taking when playing doctor. I'd love to take a dildo or have my wife fuck me with a strap-on but she doesn't like toys.
    15. I like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or a real-life situation. Any of the above.
    16. Doing roleplay I like for my wife to pretend she is my teacher, boss, or doctor.
    17. I generally play being adult when being spanked, though sometimes we play-act with my wife being a teacher and me the student.
    18. My wife has only spanked me for made-up offenses. I'd like to be punished for real infractions but she's not that into it.
    19. I like to be spanked until my buttocks are light red all over--no breaking of the skin.
    20. I don't mind marks but prefer just to have my buttocks become very red.
    21. While being spanked I feel very turned on, even though it hurts a lot. I get a really hard erection and at the same time I want her to stop spanking me I want her to continue and to make the blows harder. I like it when she stops for awhile to pleasure my genitals and anus but then starts spanking me again for a long time.
    22. While being spanked I get an erection that may subside but always comes back. I may leak pre-ejaculate fluid but to reach orgasm I need to have my penis stimulated.
    23. I like for my wife dress either in fashionable clothes or in lingerie and heels. We also have a white doctor's coat and medical items so she can be my doctor.
    24. No, never spanked in front of others. Would be willing to in front of other women.
    25. Not excited by the risk of being found out. Like to keep this totally private.
    26. No, never outed.
    27. Favorite position to be spanked in: bent naked over a sofa, preferably with arms and legs spread and tied up. After that, I like being on my knees, bottom up with face down on the bed; over-the-knee; kneeling on all fours--in that order of preference.
    28. No; never spanked to tears.
    29. Wife is my only disciplinarian.
    30. Never saw a professional disciplinarian.

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  67. Male, 56, Married
    1. 30s
    2. Wife
    3. Foreplay
    4. Inside
    5. Yes
    6. Obliging
    7. N/A
    8. N/A
    9. Grown
    10. Every 1-3 months
    11. N/A
    12. Accepting
    13. Hand, Bath Brush, Paddle, Belt
    14. Prostate Massage, Strap-on, Cunnilingus, Rimming, Intercourse
    15. Real Life
    16. Wife
    17. Adult
    18. True
    19. At least red; want to be spanked to tears, but have not been.
    20. Okay if it happens.
    21. Satisfaction; want to experience enough intensity to regret having asked for spanking
    22. Semi-erection; leak fluid
    23. Prim, matronly; domme gear is a turn off for me (and my wife)
    24. No; Yes; Strangers
    25. Private
    26. Unsure; I once asked my wife quietly for a hard spanking only to find out she was on speakerphone with my youngest daughter
    27. OTK; on bed flat; on bed with bottom propped up; standing bent at waist over mattress/sofa
    28. No, but I want to be
    29. No
    30. N/A

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  68. Male, 57, single

    1. 40s
    2. gf
    3. fun
    4. inside
    5. yes
    6. obliging
    7. N/A
    8. Lessened
    9. Grown
    10. monthly
    11. first few years
    12. accepting
    13. brush, cane, wooden spoon
    14. panty play, forced feminization, cunnilingus, enforced housework
    15. real life situations
    16. N/A
    17. adult
    18. True
    19. red
    20. yes please
    21. turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain
    22. remain soft
    23. conservative
    24. No. Yes. Strangers
    25. both
    26. No
    27. over chair, on couch, on bed with bottom propped up, kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing with hands on knees
    28. No.
    29 Yes. No.
    30. N/A

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  69. I was spanked age 20 as an adult for drinking too much.50 to 100 strokes I was crying like a baby.

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