F/M in the Media

5,000 Men Reveal: 

Their Other Hot Spots
“The thing about a butt is you can play like you mean it, it’s built for rough handling so go ahead ... even spank him if you think that’s what he’s secretly hankering for.”

Please, Ma’am, May I Have Another? Spanking 101
“Oh, the joys of spanking. It may have been a dreaded punishment as a kid. But as part of consensual adult play, it can be delicious fun ... people enjoy spanking because, in a safe environment, it can be exhilarating to command and relinquish all power.”

Ways to Light the Fires in a Marriage
"A long kiss, a good spank on the rear simply says, 'I want you!' Simple but it gets the message across. Make is an all-day foreplay."

An Inside Look at S&M
"It's the ultimate break from the thoroughly modern stresses on the self. You've got a respectably high-powered job. Maybe it's even visible one. You are regularly making difficult decisions that affect the lives of others, perhaps many others. You need to maintain a highly polished self-image. You like to feel in personal control. You're constantly advancing your independence, your responsibility, your success.So how do you take a break? If you're like an unknown number of others, perhaps you've already signed up for a spanking. Some write longingly of receiving "an old-fashioned, bare-bottom, over-the-knee spanking."

Study Whips Couples into Shape
“... giving each other a sexy spanking did help many coupled-partners feel closer to one another -- those who were happy with their S&M time reported they experienced a tighter emotional bond."

Spanking Your Man

“... even the most authoritative alpha male likes to be dominated by a woman in bed at times. Many men who endure stress and strain on the job, especially, of have high powered positions at work, love to surrender power in the bedroom.”

Spanking is Stressful, 
but Brings Couples Closer
“Spanking your partner may ratchet up the stress hormones, but they’ll thank you when it’s over, according to a new study.”

Spank me if you love me
“...taking on a role of obedience or helplessness offers a kind of therapeutic escape; from the pressures of life, from responsibility, or from guilt. For others, submitting to the power of a dominant, controlling presence may bring about the feelings of security and protection linked with childhood.” 

Hands On Sex Academy
in Berlin
“People looking to set off fireworks with a new sex technique and those who might have missed out on sex ed when they were younger can get a refresher course at the “Amora Sex Academy” ...

Behavior - Bondage Unbound
“ ... there is no study that says that BDSM cause distress or dysfunction .... the people we have looked at tend to look very much like regular people from all walks of life.”

Spanking makes men happy
“There will definitely be more men and women who have sexual tastes in this direction but won't call it this,” said Dr Juliet Richters, of the University of New South Wales.“They might not like sex magazines but they just happen to like being spanked as part of foreplay. We really found that (it) is simply a sexual interest or subculture attractive to a minority, not a pathological symptom of past abuse or difficulty with 'normal' sex,” Dr Richters said. “They've just got a broader sexual repertoire than most.”

Just a Little Harmless 
English S&M
“I think it is a perfectly harmless activity provided it is between consenting adults who want to do it, are of sound mind, and it is in private.” says British millionaire, Max Mosley.


  1. Wow, this is amazing that so much stuff has been written about this in the mainstream media. Thanks so much for all your research, Ms. Wilder. You really do put a lot of effort into explaining this interest in a very human, accepting way.

    Just ordered yoru books, too!

    Libby E.

  2. I have to agree..

  3. When I am receiving the spanking it hurts and is not enjoyable, but after I feel energized and very motivated to do the right things and please my wife however I can. What happens chemically that makes you feel so differently?

  4. I am 53 years old I have never been spanked I am looking to have a woman to spank me I live in Waterbury ct

  5. are there women in Waterbury ct who spank men

  6. When I read some articles and some comments, the picture of mentally ill people becomes very clear! Everyone tries to explain their perversion in their own way. The bottom line is that it is nothing more than a mental deficit. Our advanced society allows these deficiencies to be marketed as fetishes and used to their advantage by shrewd selfish people. In reality these sick people do not need anything other than psyco therapeutic help!


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