There's an old joke that the definition of a bitch is a woman who just won't listen. And sadly, what makes it so ironic is that it may well be true.
This question has been dogging me in writing the book. So many women are accused of being a bitch by men if they make demands, get angry or take charge of situations. And yet it's these very things that turn you on.
Is it just certain men who think like that or have you thought or called a woman a bitch at some point in your life. If so, what prompted it. And how does it differ from a dominant woman.
Is it that the same behavior that warrants being called that - suddenly get desirable when a spanking is attached to it?
What's up with that? I'd like to clear it up for the women.
Monica
POLL: The Wilder Report II - My Adult Spanking Life
THE WILDER REPORT II: These questions are about your more recent experiences and desires in your Adult Spanking Life. Thanks so much for your participation.
Please answer ALL the questions - by NUMBER - try to choose from one of the suggested answers then follow with anything you might like to add. This should be a lot of fun!
YOU MUST START WITH YOUR BASIC INFO
Please answer ALL the questions - by NUMBER - try to choose from one of the suggested answers then follow with anything you might like to add. This should be a lot of fun!
YOU MUST START WITH YOUR BASIC INFO
OR YOUR ENTRY IS USELESS AND WILL BE DELETED.
TYPE IN THE FOLLOWING:
Gender, Age, Marital Status
(male, 48, single) SAMPLE
1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking? (Late teens, 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's, NEVER)
2. Was it administered by an acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, wife or professional?
3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay?
4. Was it inside of an existing committed relationship or outside of it? (Inside, Outside)
5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? (Yes, No)
6. If so, what was her response to it? (Delighted, curious, obliging, not interested, repulsed)
7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? (Yes, No, N/A - not applicable) How do you deal with it, emotionally?
8. If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened or N/A?
9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years?
10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately? (daily, weekly, monthly, every sx months, every year, years)
11. If you are dating, how soon do you express this desire to someone? (first few dates, 1-3 months, 6 mos - one year, first few years, many years later, NEVER)
12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire?
13. Choose as many as you like from the following. I prefer to be spanked with: hand, brush, slipper, paddle, belt, cane, ruler, ferule, flogger, other (please write in)
14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings: mouth-washing, corner time, panty play, forced feminization, temperature taking, prostate massage, strap-on, fellatio, cunnilingus, rimming, intercourse, none, OTHER (please write in)
15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation?
16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be; mommy, aunt, grandmother, teacher, boss, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, girlfriend, wife, NONE, OTHER (please write in).
17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult?
18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE?
19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears?
20. How do you feel about marks? (no thanks, okay if it happens, yes please)
21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain, other
22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER (please write in)?
Some new questions suggested by readers:
(If you've already answered and want to answer these as well, copy and paste your entire original posting then add on your new answers. I will then delete your original! Easy!)
23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer (prim, matronly, conservative, everyday casual, provocative, overtly sexual, leather n' stuff.)
24. Have you been spanked in front of others? (Yes, No) Would you be willing to be? (Yes, No) If yes, strangers or people you know?
25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? (Risk or private or both)
26. Have you ever been outed? (Yes, No) If Yes, describe.
27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? (OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, on bed in diaper position, kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on knees, nose to wall, other - ?)
28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? (Yes, No) If so, what caused it? (Excessive pain, you felt you had disappointed your spanker, you felt you had disappointed yourself, the roleplay was young age, other - ?)
29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? Do you seek variety?
30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian?
Any other ideas for questions?
1. What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking? (Late teens, 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's, NEVER)
2. Was it administered by an acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, wife or professional?
3. Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay?
4. Was it inside of an existing committed relationship or outside of it? (Inside, Outside)
5. Does your significant other know that you desire to receive spankings at all? (Yes, No)
6. If so, what was her response to it? (Delighted, curious, obliging, not interested, repulsed)
7. If your significant other is NOT interested, do they know that you receive spankings elsewhere? (Yes, No, N/A - not applicable) How do you deal with it, emotionally?
8. If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened or N/A?
9. Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years?
10. How often are you spanked as an adult now - approximately? (daily, weekly, monthly, every sx months, every year, years)
11. If you are dating, how soon do you express this desire to someone? (first few dates, 1-3 months, 6 mos - one year, first few years, many years later, NEVER)
12. Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire?
13. Choose as many as you like from the following. I prefer to be spanked with: hand, brush, slipper, paddle, belt, cane, ruler, ferule, flogger, other (please write in)
14. What added attractions do you desire with your spankings: mouth-washing, corner time, panty play, forced feminization, temperature taking, prostate massage, strap-on, fellatio, cunnilingus, rimming, intercourse, none, OTHER (please write in)
15. Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation?
16. If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be; mommy, aunt, grandmother, teacher, boss, neighbor, friend's mother, therapist, girlfriend, wife, NONE, OTHER (please write in).
17. What age do you like to play when being spanked: child, teen, adult?
18. For true offences, made-up ones or NONE?
19. What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears?
20. How do you feel about marks? (no thanks, okay if it happens, yes please)
21. While being spanked do you feel: turned on, enjoyment, satisfaction, pain, other
22. While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm, OTHER (please write in)?
Some new questions suggested by readers:
(If you've already answered and want to answer these as well, copy and paste your entire original posting then add on your new answers. I will then delete your original! Easy!)
23. What kind of spanker's dress do you prefer (prim, matronly, conservative, everyday casual, provocative, overtly sexual, leather n' stuff.)
24. Have you been spanked in front of others? (Yes, No) Would you be willing to be? (Yes, No) If yes, strangers or people you know?
25. Are you excited by the risk of being found out or do you like to keep this totally private? (Risk or private or both)
26. Have you ever been outed? (Yes, No) If Yes, describe.
27. What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most? (OTK, OTK - scissor lock, OTK - legs split over one knee, over chair, on couch, on bed lying flat, on bed with bottom propped up, on bed in diaper position, kneeling on all fours, kneeling with nose to the ground, standing, standing with hands on knees, nose to wall, other - ?)
28. Have you ever been spanked to tears? (Yes, No) If so, what caused it? (Excessive pain, you felt you had disappointed your spanker, you felt you had disappointed yourself, the roleplay was young age, other - ?)
29. Do you see one disciplinarian regularly? Do you seek variety?
30. If you do go to one, what do you hope for in a professional Domestic Disciplinarian?
Any other ideas for questions?
POLL: The Wilder Report I (Where did this all come from?) continued ...
Yes, YOU! For those of you who arrived late, THE WILDER REPORT is an almost scientific study I created to discover the origins of this wonderful pastime. This may be the only study of it's kind ever attempted! You can find it in the Archives under September 2006.
I only have about 100 USABLE responses on it and I would love to have 200 or more.
Here's how you post;
CHOOSE the LETTERS from my opening post first,
then your GENDER & your AGE
Like so:
A, K, L
Male 56
Then write your personal comments here, if you like.
If you have not posted exactly like this - your post CANNOT be counted! If you realize that you did it wrong - you may go back and REPOST (copy and paste your incorrect post underneath your answers so I'll know which one you were.)
Now from my stats I happen to know for a fact that we have at least 500 people checking in here almost daily, and that's a low estimate. (Yup, this is a pretty popular blog!) My point being, I need more of you to participate.
The questionnaire is lots of fun and there are plenty of fascinating true accounts already entered into the thread. If you are reading this post then I want you to go to THE WILDER REPORT and follow the instructions TO THE LETTER! Understood?
I have to be stern on this ... this study, as informal as it is, is very important to me. And I'm sure you're just as curious as I am to find out how this all came about in our heads.
So go to September, scroll down, READ THE INSTRUCTIONS, pick your letters and start typing. Make sure you add your GENDER and AGE, too!
POLL: The "Original" Wilder Report I (Where did this all come from?)
Hello Gentlemen (and Ladies), Well, you know how fascinated I am by all of this so I'm very curious about how this craving started with you. I always ask the "spanko" people I meet and have noticed some trends. Some of you have had this desire since you were very small, some in your teens, some as young men and some ... very recently!
I would love to know what the percentages are - just think of me as Kinsey. (Well, I'm a bit cuter than Kinsey was.) Anyway, even though it's not very scientific, it covers everything I have heard to date.
This ... is the WILDER Report.
This ... is the WILDER Report.
I'm going to list possible answers and I'm going to ask you to:
1. Type ONLY the letter(s) that apply to you at the top of the post.
2. Under that, type your gender and current age (feel free to post anonymously.)
3. If you'd like to add something (a comment, your experience, whatever) then skip a couple of spaces before you type it. This will make it easier for me to tally without having to search through your writing to find your choice.
Like so:
A, K, L
Male 56
Then write your personal comments here, if you like.
If you have not posted exactly like this - your post CANNOT be counted! If you realize that you did it wrong - you may go back and REPOST (copy and paste your incorrect post underneath your answers so I'll know which one you were.)
Okay, let's go. Pick just as many as you need that apply to you and your experiences.
CHILDHOOD/TEENS
A. I was spanked bare-bottom by my mother and/or father and I know that is where this started.
B. I was spanked bare-bottom by my mother and/or father but it had no affect on this at all, it came from somewhere else.
C. I was spanked bare-bottom by another woman (an aunt, neighbor, teacher, employer, etc.) and found it titillated at the time or later on whenever I thought about it.
D. I was spanked by my parents once in awhile but it was not bare-bottom and not ritualistic and did not have any affect on this, it came from somewhere else. .
E. I was spanked by my parents once in awhile but it was not bare-bottom and not ritualistic and that IS where this all started for me.
F. I was hit or beaten by my parents but not spanked in any way and this has nothing to do with that, it came from somewhere else.
G. I was hit or beaten by my parents but not spanked in any way and for some reason I crave spankings because they feel different.
H. I was NEVER spanked or hit by my parents but even as a child I just felt like I wanted to be spanked.
I. I was NEVER spanked or hit by my parents - this desire came from somewhere else.
J. As a child or teen I saw or overheard another child/teen being spanked and it titillated me.
K. As a child or teen I saw something (magazine, photo, book, etc ...) of this and it titillated me.
L. A nun or priest was the one who did the spanking and that's where it came from.
M. I like to roleplay the initial event that triggered this for me.
ADULT
N. I discovered I had this desire as an adult in my 20's.
O. I discovered I had this desire as an adult in my 30's.
P. I discovered I had this desire as an adult in my 40's.
Q. I discovered I had this desire as an adult in my 50's.
R. I discovered I had this desire as an adult in my 60's.
S. I came across it on the internet and it titillated me.
T. I saw it somewhere (magazine, book, video, film, etc...) and it titillated me.
U. A woman (wife, girlfriend, date, etc...) I knew suggested it or did it to me and I immediately liked it.
V. I started out being the spanker and then began to feel like I wanted to be spanked as well.
W. I don't know where it came from, I just started to feel like I wanted a woman to dominate me in this way.
X. It turns me on sexually.
Y. It doesn't turn me on sexually.
Z. Other (please explain briefly here. You can go into details below if you like.)
Thank you for your participation!
POLL: "Who ARE you? Sort of"
Image via WikipediaIt helps if I have a demographic of sorts. You can post anonomously, if you like, but I would just like to know the following.
Age, Gender, Marital Status, US State or European Country, Occupation
so it would read like this ...
47, M, Single, Connecticut, Pilot
or
35, M, Married, France, Lumberjack (ARE there French lumberjacks???)
Will you help me? I need to prove how men of all ages, from all walks of life are fascinated by this.
Thanks!
Monica
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